Boo is my third son. He's not part of the twosome that is D and J, by the mere fact that they are two years apart and he is 6 years younger. He is also left out of a huge part of the family history. We had a house fire. The fire destroyed our home. D was 7, J was 5 and Boo was in utero. The big boys clearly remember the fire, they remember the house, they remember the temporary house, they remember staying at Grammy and Freepa's, they remember their Aunts and Uncles bringing clothes and toys and books. And they remember D's school taking up a collection and presenting them with all kinds of toys and books and stuff shortly after the fire.
Boo has no recollection of this major family event, except the part that has become part of family lore. Boo surely doesn't remember living in PA, in the house we rebuilt. And he probably doesn't remember moving to New Jersey, he was barely two at the time. All he remembers is our house in New Jersey on two acres and this school he attends now and these things he knows. And for this and many other reasons, Boo doesn't have the bond that D & J do.
And for that reason Boo thinks he is not as good. D has the whole creative, literary, studious brother identity locked up. J is our athlete and hardworker. Boo thinks he offers nothing. Nearly every adult around Boo sees his talents, his gifts, his offerings. But Boo does not. Boo is definitely a glass half empty kind of kid. Most kids Boo's age don't get him. This doesn't help. He is too old for fourth grade.
Any chance he's given, he does this "politican thing" as I call it. He gladhands. He says "Hello, how are you doing?" He tells the preacher on Sunday mornings "Great Sermon today Pastor, you really got to me." He refers to God as "The Lord God Almighty". What nine year old talks like that? He's developed quite a reputation at church. He's been assigned the Lead in the Christmas Pageant, he's our go-to prayer leader in Sunday School, there are adults who expect him to replace the Pastor, maybe soon. One of the other members last week said "I no longer worry about what he's going to say during Children's time, instead I listen, because I usually learn something." My response, "His Father and I still worry about what he's going to say." and I'm not really kidding.
How can I get Boo to see himself the way so many adults in his life see him?